Caring for someone can be rewarding, but it can also be exhausting, overwhelming and lonely at times. Many unpaid carers spend so much time looking after others that they forget to look after themselves too.
If you’re supporting a family member, partner or friend, it’s important to remember that your mental health matters just as much.
It’s OK to not be OK
Being a carer can bring a mix of emotions. You might feel:
- stressed or anxious
- exhausted
- isolated
- guilty for taking time for yourself
- worried about the future
- frustrated or overwhelmed
These feelings are more common than many people realise, and you are not alone.
Small Things Can Make a Difference
Looking after your wellbeing doesn’t always mean making big changes. Small things can help, such as:
- taking short breaks where possible
- speaking to someone you trust
- staying connected with friends or family
- getting outside for some fresh air
- making time for hobbies or things you enjoy
- asking for help when you need it
Don’t Be Afraid to Ask for Support
Many people feel they have to cope on their own, but support is available. Talking to other carers, community groups or support organisations can help you feel less isolated and more understood.
There are local carer support services that can help you. In South Tees the main carers support services are:
Next Steps
The Junction Foundation
Teesside Mind
Mobilise
If your mental health is being affected, it’s important to speak to your GP or a mental health professional. And make sure your GP knows that you are a carer, Download our Carers GP Registration Form and hand it in at your local surgery.
You also have rights under the Carers Act 2014. This includes the right to a Carers Assessment from your local authority which is really a conversation with a professional to look at your needs.
Remember You Matter Too
Carers provide incredible support every day, often without recognition. Taking care of your own mental health is not selfish, it helps you continue caring without reaching breaking point.
Useful Websites and Resources
Mental Health Foundation - resources to learn about mental health, how to care for your own wellbeing, support others, and prevent mental ill-health https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/explore-mental-health/articles
Mind - information and tips on looking after your mental health and finding support. https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/helping-someone-else/carers-friends-family-coping-support/your-mental-health/
Rethink Mental Illness – Support and guidance for severe mental illness and carers. https://www.rethink.org
Anxiety UK – Support, therapy, and resources for those living with anxiety disorders.https://www.anxietyuk.org.uk/
Shout – Free, confidential text support, accessible to all communities. Shout: The UK's free, confidential, 24/7 mental health text service | Shout 85258
Recovery College Online (RCO) - online educational resources for anyone struggling with their mental health, as well as families, friends and colleagues https://www.recoverycollegeonline.co.uk/
At We Care You Care, we want carers across South Tees to feel seen, valued and supported.
