Taking a break from caring
Caring for someone can be challenging, and finding time for yourself can feel difficult. However, it’s essential to take regular breaks to recharge. Although it may seem hard, prioritising time for yourself is crucial for your wellbeing.
The length and type of break you need will depend on your situation and the level of care the person you look after requires. A break could be as short as an hour or two, a full day, or even longer. Respite care comes in many forms: it could involve the person you care for having a short stay in a care home, attending a day service, or receiving care at home.
Taking a break is important not only for you, but it can also benefit the person you care for, providing them with a change of environment or routine.
Where to Start?
It’s natural to feel guilty about taking time for yourself as a carer, but remember: you have needs too. Taking time for activities you enjoy helps recharge your batteries and makes you better able to continue in your caring role. Ultimately, both you and the person you care for will benefit. Prioritising your well-being is not selfish!
If you have family or friends nearby, consider asking them for help. It can be challenging to request support, and sometimes loved ones may not know what’s needed. Be open with them about how you’re feeling and what would be helpful. You might even consider holding a family meeting or writing a letter to express your needs. For example, you could say:
"I think it would really help if I could return to my weekly art class and take a day off occasionally. Before I look into local services, I wanted to ask if the family could support me in this."
Of course, this may not be possible for everyone, but it’s worth exploring.
If arranging time off proves difficult, or if you can’t get the support you need from family and friends, a carer's assessment can open the door to funded or partially funded respite care. To access council-funded respite care for yourself or the person you care for, both of you will need an assessment.
The person you're caring for should have a needs assessment, even if they don’t want council funding. This assessment will help identify the most suitable type of respite care for them.
Different types of respite care
The main types of respite care are:
- day care centres
- homecare from a paid carer
- a short stay in a care home
- respite holidays
Understanding your options
Whether you're self-funding respite care or receiving financial support through the Local Authority, it’s important to be informed about the services available in your area. The Care Quality Commission (CQC) website is a great resource for narrowing down your search by service type and postcode. You can explore detailed information about each provider, including their CQC inspection ratings, which help you assess the quality of the service. Additionally, you'll find contact details to arrange visits, giving you the opportunity to make a well-informed decision.
Day Care Centres
Day care centres offer a chance for people who find it difficult to get out and about to socialise, make friends and take part in activities.
For example, day care centres might offer tea dances, singing, games and arts and crafts. Some offer hairdressing, foot care and assisted bathing.
Transport is often provided, but there may be a charge. To qualify for council-funded day care centre visits, the person you look after will need to have had a needs assessment.
Help at home from a paid carer
If you care for someone and need more time for yourself, you can arrange for a paid carer to help at their home. This is also called homecare. It might be regular (for example, one day a week so that you can work, study or have a day off) or for a short period, such as a week, so you can take a holiday.
If the person you care for needs 24-hour supervision, you can arrange live-in care. To qualify for council-funded home care, the person you look after will need to have had a needs assessment.
Contact your local Adult Social Care Team to explore your options:
Middlesbrough- Telephone: 01642 726004
Redcar & Cleveland Adult Social Care- Telephone: 01642 771500 Out of hours telephone: 01642 524552and explore your options.
You could also search the NHS website for a list of local home care agencies and a list of national homecare organisations or ask the United Kingdom Homecare Association (UKHMA) for a list of approved home care agencies in your area.
Navigating the care system can be overwhelming, but knowing your rights can make all the difference! If you or a loved one need help with care and support, understanding the assessment process, funding options, and your choices is crucial. Whether you're self-funding or eligible for assistance, it’s important to stay informed about your rights.
Learn more about how to access the support you need and make the best choices for your care in this article here Help and Advice Navigating the Care System
A short stay in a care home
Some care homes offer short-term respite care.
It can be difficult to get respite space at short notice, but some care homes take advance bookings which can help you to plan ahead, for example, if you want to book a holiday.
Take a look at some local care home options. You will need to speak with the provider directly to find out if they offer short-term respite care.
Short Break Services for families with children & young people with additional needs or disabilities
Short Breaks are available for disabled children and young people and are intended to have positive benefits for both children and young people and their parents and carers. Short Breaks provision can range from a few hours a week to an allocated number of overnight breaks per year and anything in between.
Short breaks aim to provide parents and carers with:
- A necessary and valuable break from their caring responsibility;
- A chance to rest and unwind;
- To spend time with other members of the family.
For more information contact:
Redcar and Cleveland Borough Council Short Breaks Offer
Redcar & Cleveland Short Breaks- Telephone the Family Information Service at 0800 073 8800 or Email: ShortBreaks@redcar-cleveland.gov.uk.
Middlesbrough Council Short Breaks Offer
Middlesbrough Short Breaks- Telephone: 01642 579160 Email: shortbreaks@middlesbrough.gov.uk Advice can be provided without a referral but for an assessment, a referral should be made through the Middlesbrough Multi-Agency Children's Hub (01642 726004).
Respite holidays
Respite holidays allow carers and people with illnesses or disabilities, to take a break from everyday life. Here are some services that can help:
- Carefree is a charity that provides free short stays for unpaid carers providing 30+hours of care per week for an admin fee of £25.
- MindforYou offer supported holidays in the UK for people who are living with dementia and their carers to enjoy together
- some charities, such as Revitalise, offer subsidised holidays for elderly or disabled people
- Family Fund has grants towards the cost of holidays for families on a low income who are caring for a child with a severe disability
- Family Holiday Association has breaks at holiday sites, or grants to help with the cost of a holiday, to low-income families. You need to be referred by your social worker, GP or health visitor, or by a charity or other welfare agent
Emergency respite care
Think about who you could contact in an emergency if you couldn't reach the person needing care, for example, due to an accident or sudden illness.
This might be another relative, friend or neighbour who could step in for a few hours while proper arrangements are made.
Make sure they:
- have door keys or know the code to a key safe
- know the type of care the person you look after will need – this may be as simple as sitting and chatting with them, making a meal for them or helping them take their medicines
Write some notes about what kind of care the person you look after needs and leave them in a prominent place to help anyone who steps in to help at a moment's notice.
These notes could include essential information on medicines, and any dos and don'ts for the substitute carer to be aware of.
Carers Together can provide a free Carers Card which offers peace of mind for the carer and for the person they care for, knowing an agreed plan can be activated in an emergency. Contact the team by phone: (01642) 488977 or email: info@carerstogether-rc.org.uk
Paying for respite care
According to the UK Care Guide, respite care costs on average £700-800 a week.
It can be as much as £1,500 a week, for emergency respite care, live-in care, or staying in a care home.
There are 2 main ways of getting help with the costs of respite care:
- from the council
- from a charity
Or, you can pay for it yourself.
From the Local Authority
Councils will only pay for respite care for people who they've assessed as needing it following a needs assessment and carer's assessment.
Middlesbrough Adult Social Care: Telephone: 01642 065070
Redcar & Cleveland Adult Social Care. Telephone: 01642 771500 Out of hours telephone: 01642 524552
If you or the person you care for qualifies for respite care, the council will do a financial assessment to work out if it will pay towards it. If you or the person you care for qualifies for council-funded respite care, you can ask the council to arrange it for you, or you can do it yourself through a personal budget or direct payment.
From a charity
The charity, Turn2us, can help to find grants for people who need respite care but can't afford it.
Age UK Teesside has a service that provides regular time off for carers, by providing befriending volunteers to the carers loved ones, which allows carers to have the opportunity to have time for themselves. The Time Out Service delivers this offer in Redcar & Cleveland for carers aged 18+. Contact Marie Kerr on 07834 181190. Time For You is the Middlesbrough equivalent for carers aged 50+. Contact Helen Metcalfe, Tel: 01642 805500 or Email: helen.metcalfe@ageukteesside.org.uk
Paying for it yourself
If the person you care for has to pay for their own respite care, they might be able to raise money towards this from:
- income from pensions, work, investments or property
- savings
- benefits, such as Attendance Allowance
Take a look at your financial support options.
More info
- the Disabled Holiday Directory is an online directory of organisations and venues, in the UK and abroad, that cater for children and adults with disabilities
- the government has advice specifically for disabled people travelling abroad
- Carers UK has more info for carers on taking a break
