Death is the only certainty in life, yet it is something many of us avoid thinking about and are even fearful of. If we avoid thinking about it and talking about how can we be prepared for it when it does come either to ourselves or to our loved ones?
Most people experience grief when a loved one dies and this process can differ for each of us. The NHS website shares the most common symptoms of grief as:
- shock and numbness – this is usually the first reaction to loss, and people often talk about "being in a daze"
- overwhelming sadness, with lots of crying
- tiredness or exhaustion
- anger – towards the person you've lost or the reason for your loss
- guilt – for example, guilt about feeling angry, about something you said or did not say, or not being able to stop your loved one dying
These feelings may not be there all the time and powerful feelings may appear unexpectedly.
It's not always easy to recognise when bereavement, grief or loss are the reason you're acting or feeling differently.
The grieving process is not linear, there is no set amount of time you are supposed to feel a certain way, everybody deals with grief differently. The important thing to recognise is when you may need a bit of extra support to prevent your grief from overwhelming you. This is not always easy to do when you are the one in the grips of grief itself, however you may relate to some or all of the points above and would benefit from talking things through. There is help and support available.
Bereavement Counselling Service
Teesside Hospice is offering a new way of accessing their bereavement counselling service in recognition of the increased number of people experiencing loss as a result of the Covid-19 pandemic and the restrictions on social interactions.
You can now self refer or refer another via their website. All you need to do is fill in the online form, and one of the team will be in touch to speak with you about the next steps for you.
We have worked hard to ensure we can meet the need for bereavement counselling in the future, and we will be offering face to face counselling when it's safe to do so, plus the flexibility of telephone and video counselling too. Providing support at a time, and in a way that feels right to you, is so important to us.
We understand that the death of a loved one is a difficult and overwhelming experience, and if you find that you need support during this time, or information about self help, please fill out our online form and one of our team will be in touch."
Watch this short video from Sara Mathews who is the Head of Counselling at the hospice, which explains a bit more about the support they are offering.
Teesside Hospice has a great page with lots of useful resources for you to access including; dealing with grief, practical and legal matters, supporting a child when somebody dies; take a look. You can also give the team a call on 01642 811063.
For further information on alternative support for bereavement visit the NHS website.